1. Pick the right time and place
“Timing is everything and you need to ditch the distractions,” says Dr. Terri. “Trying to talk when your husband is watching a football game, or right before you go to bed, is probably not the best idea.” Oftentimes, Dr. Terri says, the conversation is more about us than the other person. We want to talk about something that’s on our mind, so we want to do it right away, when it’s convenient for us. But it might not be convenient for the other person.
Get Listened To: Pick a time and place that is quiet with no other people around. Perhaps it’s at dinnertime. Or maybe it’s on a walk around your neighborhood. Another great strategy; have a conversation when you’re going somewhere in the car together. “Men like to solve problems side by side, like when they’re in the car, while women like to solve them face to face,” she says.