5 Friends Every Grandparent Needs

From the friend who knows the grandparenting ropes, to the one who makes you stick to your exercise routine, surround yourself with this friendship posse.

By Denise Schipani
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I know a lot of grandmas, but I don't have 5 female "friends." I have a lot of associates. Maybe since I am about to become a grandma some of my associates can become friends or at least allies I can call on when needed! I would like more friends so maybe my grandchild can help me with this! As of this article I would say I have "3" female friends and 2 of them are grandmas, and the other "1" is my only child, who is about to make me a GRANDMA!!!!

grannytobe on 2012-09-30 09:57:26

@ Audrey - I'm so sorry about the loss of your friends and family! IDK if you mean that they passed away or if they simply drifted away b/c you were, once again, raising a child (the syndrome I spoke about in my post below). But I'm glad to see you came over to talk to us in Grandparents Caring for Grandkids! And I hope that, in time, you come to feel that the members there are your "new friends," if only online. : - )

rosered135 on 2012-09-30 08:04:15

I think this is great. However in the past several years I have lost just about all of my best friends and family too. The sad thing about this is that my grandson, who I have custody of is now 16 years old and I have a lot more time to spend with them. It is not easy to make new friends at my age (68) but I am still very active and want people to go places with. He no longer wants to spend time with me but prefers his friends company. I usually take him to Florida during Spring and Fall Break at school but he would not go this year because he didn't have a friend that could go with us. I need advise and new friends to spend time with. Audrey Ralston

audrey.ralston@att.net on 2012-09-29 12:11:08

I think this is a great overall list of friends to have. Granted, as with many such lists, some of these personalities could overlap. "The Tried-and-True" friend, for example, could easily be "The Helper," as well, just as "The Veteran" could be one's informal "Therapist." But, even so, these are good traits to have in one's friends, no matter how they're divided up (or not).

But as the "nanny granny" to my 2 darling grandchildren and moderator of Grandparents Caring for Grandkids (GCfG), I know that GP (grandparent) caregivers often have less time than b4 to spend with their friends and may even lose a few - or a lot. This is especially true of those who take on the challenge of raising their GC (grandchildren), for whatever reason. Friends who have moved beyond the childrearing years and are into other interests, frequently seem to drift away. Or the friendships end b/c the "friends" don't understand why the GPs can't just "make" the parents be more responsible and take care of their own kids.

Such GPs often, in my view, need a 6th and even 7th friend or set of friends. I'm thinking of a network of support from GPs in the same or similar situations. For some, that means members of a local support group ( "the 6th friend"), if one is available. But instead, or in addition, many caregivers also need "the 7th friend" or set of friends - the online support group, where you can go any time of day or night and reach out to find others who will understand, strangers though they may be.

It's that "7th" type of friend that we provide at GCfG. So it you're reading this and you're raising your GC, helping to raise them or watching them often and/or for long hours, I'd love to have you come and join us. (Other relative caregivers are welcome, too. As are former and soon-to-be such caregivers.) Just go to the VERY TOP of the page - the line ABOVE the one with the title of the website - and click on Community, then Grandparenting and you'll find us! Though we're still experiencing some technical glitches, due to the recent revamping of the website, people are in there talking. So come on over! :- )

rosered135 on 2012-09-28 01:22:42

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