Set yourself up for a stimulating adulthood that's separate from your role as a parent and grandparent — and let your grandchildren see the possibilities you are discovering as an older adult. Examples
: Return to school, find work that fulfills you (volunteer or for pay), or join a club.
"It's a combination of planning and execution," says Schofield. "Suppose I retired and wanted to do two or three new activities. I would choose things that involved my mind, body, new friends, new ideas, a shift of attention. I want my grandkids to see that I can make these choices and have a really good time doing it later in my life. That I've got a new kind of freedom." By modeling this behavior, children learn that the future is vast, varied, and open.