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I also am new and so desperatly need to talk, everything is fallen apart. i'am raising 3 grandkids and the parents are parents from hell. if anyone wants to talk or listen please notify me. thanks
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grammie04
04/18/08 @ 12:01 AM
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I assume you've read some of the previous posts? There are a lot of bad situations out there. Many of them are sure to be somewhat similar to yours. You need to disdtinguish between problems, which might have solutions, and dilemas, which can only be understood and adapted to. Go ahead and let some frustrations out. It can't hurt?
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srhcb
04/19/08 @ 06:25 PM
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grammie04 thank you for your responce, I really am surprised that there is not more chat in this grandparents.com I would love to strike up conversation and hopefully lasting friendships with someon in common with our simular situation, I have been reading dailey and was very shocked to see not much interaction going on, yes us grandparents are quite busy with the children, we are really looking for a place to discuss and hopefully get advice from people who are in our shoes when it comes to the situation with the kids and their parents. in our case if thats what u call them "parents" Have a great day! any advice will be greatly appreciated.
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grammie04
04/25/08 @ 03:23 PM
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Often discussion boards have to reach a sort of "critical mass" before most people fell comfortable using them. Remember that even those who don't post enjoy reading what others have to say, so every post helps!
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srhcb
04/25/08 @ 08:37 PM
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Hello there, ani here, I have been having some problems and have posted a few ideas, situations and hope it helps,I also have someone who might help, she helps estranged parents, desperate g-parents and is a very good sleuth, drop her a line at bidkid54@yahoo.com, I on the other hand have just posted a suggestion on a guestion forun"what advice would you give new grandparents"hope it helps and would love to be 'friends, write me at anigrany@yahoo.com, I'm from Lafayette In.any more Lafayette/Dayton,etc. Grandparents out there who would like to get together for lunch and discuss our G-babies?? let me know.
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anigrany
04/27/08 @ 10:56 AM
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Dear Grammie04,
Sorry to hear you're have difficulties, but I can relate.
See my screen name....Itsadogslife, partly because of how I'm treated. I totally understand life falling apart and parents from hell. Quick rundown: My son who was on his way to federal prison(my kids are not saints) met my so called friend/employee who I asked to help me keep my boy directed and busy before his sentencing date, and well.....I didn't mean watching him right into bed. Needless to say their boy just turned two. Where to begin, this woman is 11 years older than my son, 8 years younger than me, a mother of now 5, there are 4 dads. Since my son has been incarcerated she has left a path of destruction, from what I can tell it's repeated behavior long before we came into her life. She is no longer an employee, our business is gone with her help, 3 other men have been used and abused, one of which has resulted in multiple arrests and suicide attempts. I don't have enough time, space or energy to include all the dramatic and horrifying details. She is a quick talker, she manipulates, and all warnings are not seriously taken until the aftermath unfolds. My son has silently watched this from prison with his hands tied. We are trying to be there for her kids, especially our grandson. It is very trying and heartbreaking to watch. I try not to get bitten by the drama bug, she enjoys chaos, if there isn't any, she creates it or finds it. IMO, her children suffer. They attach themselves to new men like a stray dog, and poof, they're gone. Counting to ten is getting old, taking deep breathes result in hyper ventilating, I just don't know which direction to go in anymore. Obviously I don't have much good to say about her and believe me I'm tested constantly, it's to the point I just don't answer or brush off conversation with "she'll be fine". I guess I need to vent more than I thought, I would greatly enjoy talking to you, who knows it could be therapeutic.
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05/02/08 @ 10:04 AM
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Hi I am a foster parent to my grandson. His father claims he "dropped him" , but according to the police and states attorney his injuries are not consistent with the explanation. He also has shaken baby syndrome. My daughter was not implicaed in any of this, her boyfirend failed his lie detector test 95%, cant get much worse than that. BUt my daughter broke my heart when she chose her boyfriend over her son. Since then my daughter has dumped him and is trying to put her life together, The courts wont let her move into the house with her son and I. Its just an awful mess. So far my granson is not showing any effects from the SBS, I only pray it will stay that way. HE is an absolute delight to have here with me. Thanks Ineeded to vent. I would really like to talk to other grandparents who are in the same situation.
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05/23/08 @ 09:54 PM
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I am a grand parent to two wonderful children. I also know that my husband's sons have children but we are not involved in t heir lives. We are always in close contact with our daughter so we are a part of the grandchildren's lives. (These grandchildren we take part in their lives.) We have just found out that my youngest step son has a 1 year old child, the 2nd stepson has a child (about 9 years old) and we may also have a granddaughter, my 3rd step son's child. How do you suggest the rift between their father and themselves be resolved? We would very much like to be a part of their lives but my husband feels that the boys dont have time for him. I know this an issue my husband has to rectify but I sure would like to help. We want to be a part of all our grandchildren's lives. Any suggestions?
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memere
05/29/08 @ 02:11 PM
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It is a tough road to hoe and believe me, I feel your pain. We are raising two of our five grandchildren. They are adorable and of course we love them dearly but I'm spitting nails angry with my son and his sig. other for doing this to all of us! My husband and I have five boys between us and we just got the last one graduated from high school when these two little packages arrived. We were in the midst of planning our actual retirement which now appears to be just a dream. In addition to taking on the responsibility of raising these two more children, our oldest son died about two years ago. His death was in November and in December the two children we have has a full blooded sibling who was taken into custody at four mo. old. We tried to gain custody of her and to this day I cannot believe the judge ruled in favor of the foster parents who wanted to adopt her. I was forced to try and hide my grief for my oldest son who had passed because it made me look weak. The case was really all political as it was a foster mother who was in a position of power over three counties, including the one the hearing was held in. I will not rest until it is all exposed. I can't. It is just so wrong! How in the world my youngest granddaughter could be raised away from her full blooded brother and sister is beyond my comprehension. How a judge could make such a terrible mistake is beyond me as well. We now have attorney bills that exceed 100K and will probably have to file bankruptcy and certainly forget about any kind of retirement ever. So believe me sister, I feel the pain of this upside down world that we live in. Thank God for the sweetness these children bring. I couldn't survive without it. k
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06/01/08 @ 06:23 PM
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