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Are Grandpas Necessary?
Are grandpas (or granddads, papaws, etc.) needed in a child's life? Do they play a special role? Does anyone even know they "exist :-)?" Or do some of you guys feel invisible in the grandparenting world?Personally, I think grandpas, etc. are very important in a grandchild's experience. But I also think you guys are very needed in the groups. Maybe you think it's all "just a bunch of women, griping about the kids (young parents) taking advantage of them or - worse - cutting them out of the GCs lives." But if so, you're wrong. 1st, we DO have some great guys over there (though not enough). And there are several groups where you can share your passions with other GPs. Love photography? There's Top My Caption. Pet fanatic? There's Animal Love. And so on. And if you're a single GP, there's a group for the special challenges of being just that. Top My Caption and the single GP group can be found if you just go to the word Groups on the very top, right of this page. Click on Just for Fun to find Top My Caption and Love and Relationships for the single GP group (sorry I don't recall the name but you'll see it). For Animal Love, Click on the word "Groups" next to Discussions and then scroll down the page and click on the category of Health. You'll find it there. Oh, if outdoor sports are your thing, just click on Groups and go to the Feature Groups list. There you'll find Go Play Outside. And I almost forgot! There's now a group focused on the role of grandfathers. It's called Just Grandpas and it's under Grandparenting on that Groups list above. Meanwhile, if you do a lot of "grandchildcare,"please join us at Grandparents Caring for Grandkids (also under Grandparenting) And if you've got some good family stories or photos to share, please come on over to The Family Storybook (under Family)
And yes, there's another guy or 2 in both groups. but please don't leave them there "all by themsleves" :-)! We need more grandpas! Fredigram (moderator, Grandparents Caring for Grandkids and The Family Storybook)
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fredigram
06/29/09 @ 11:01 AM
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Sometimes being a grandparent comes with some territory that no one wants to talk about. Maybe it's to painful, or perhaps you think it would never happen to you. But, as many people are finding out, our "system" just doesn't do what it's supposed to do. I urge everyone here to check our my group. Discussions of this sort, by their very nature, can be distastful or frightening to many. But believe me, you all need to know what's going on in the fight for family and childrens rights across the country. Please go to "SRS does it over step its boundaries" and let me know what you are thinking. If you have stories to tell this is the place.
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KSMeMa
06/29/09 @ 03:04 PM
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Hi there, i'm B clark's husband - she wanted me to write on this disucussion. haha. . i say Yes , grandpa's are important and should be in their families lives . i love being a grandparent. watching our granddaughter grow is the greatest joy of my life right now. Both grandparents provide a source of knowledge and wisdom that can't be provided by anyone else. "and how else do we get to spoil our grandchildren if we'renot there. '. excuse the spelling....from DAVE
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BClark
06/29/09 @ 09:01 PM
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Yes, Yes, Yes!!! Grandpas are the best, they are usually less judging and intrusive.... They just want to love the kids and play with them, not parent them, Grandmas need to take a lesson from Grandpas... And I am a woman saying this....
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Abysmm
06/30/09 @ 10:44 AM
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I agree. Grandpas are just as important in a child's life as grandmas. But isn't this typical? I ask about grandpas and out of the 3 people that answer, only 1 of them is a grandpa! LOL! Not that the female viewpoint on this subject isn't valuable. Of course it is. But where are you guys/grandpas? Well,you don't "have to" chime in here, of course. And you don't have to join us over in the Groups section, either, though happily, a few of you have. That's your choice and I respect that. But please remember that in just a month this Board will be shutting down. So the best way to interact with other grandparents, if ever you want to, on this site will be by joining 1 or more groups. Why wait for August 1st? Why not join something now? Even if it's "only" Just Grandpas? Hope you'll decide to come over there soon :-)!
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fredigram
07/03/09 @ 03:38 AM
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You better believe they are and two are in my group TALKING FROM THE HEART and a Papaw from Kentucky and my fantastic cousin Dan with 12 grandchildren and awesome man and friend
These men are great and put their two cents in too.Simplyshy/Sandy
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Simplyshy
07/04/09 @ 03:57 PM
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Agreed Simplyshy. And yes, I've got some great guys in my groups, too, including the ones you mentioned. But I think grandpas are strangely absent from a lot of other groups that you'd think they'd like to join. Even "Just Grandpas" doesn't have nearly as many men/grandpas as I would have thought. Do a lot of men just not "do" groups? Or is it just a lot of granddads that avoid it? Whatever, the groups will go on, regardless. I just think there are more groups that could benefit from more male input. But if not, then not. Enough about that! Have Happy 4th, everyone:-)!
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fredigram
07/04/09 @ 08:14 PM
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First of all,I think grandads are very important in a childs life.I often think of my grandad on dads side & wonder what kind of man he was,what kind of memories we could have had & it's sad,no one ever talked about him,he died when I was 4. My grandad on moms side,I have alot of fond memories of him. Grandad never told me he loved me but he showed me,never got a hug but a pat on the head or the back,with a smile, that was enough.He was stern & gruff but yet in a way he was also gental. I think most men are like this,you're less a man if you cry or show emotion.
Also I don't think I've seen more than 4or5 grandads on here & maybe they are like me still tring to find my way around, like, I never heard of "just for grandpas" until I read this. I checked it out but have not replied yet. So Fredigram 1 out of three(now 4) ain't to bad, pretty good % LoL
Good day & God bless you all papaw in ky
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Karena
07/05/09 @ 02:10 PM
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@Karena -True - mostly. But occasionally, a granddad pops in that we never saw before or since. So I'm thinking there are more "lurking around," so to speak than we realize. Of course, they don't have to join the groups if they don't want to. But I think it would be nice if they did, especially since, as CommunityGal just pointed out, this Discussion Board will be closing down in a little less than a month. But of course, Karena, you've already joined a few groups. Wouldn't you know, the one grandpa to answer this thread would be one of the ones who tends to be more active? God bless you, too,
Fredigram
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fredigram
07/05/09 @ 03:18 PM
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@ Karena/Papaw and DAVE - Sorry, I should have said "one of two grandpas." Forgot another grandpa (DAVE) replied to this thread earlier. Just read your comment, Papaw, and answered.
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fredigram
07/05/09 @ 03:42 PM
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