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Gmdmajulie,my heart goes out to you. It must be so difficult for you to have to sort of sit on the sidelines and watch this happening to your grandson (GS), especially since you already have some experience with this condition. It must feel like deja vue,except that there you are with all this knowledge and experience and you can't use it. But perhaps, like many other things today, the medical info and advice regarding this problem has chamged? Clearly, your dear daughter (DD) knows there's a concern or she wouldn't have taken him to be diagnosed. Is is possible she was told to wait to begin, say, medical treatment? Is she following certain parenting rules she was given instead? In other words, is she really "doing nothing" or is she just following different advice than what you recall? If you feel you have something to say to her, perhaps the best thing would be to gently remind her that you have experience with this situation and that she can come to you with any questions. Then if she does, answer briefly - focus on the most important things. DON'T overwhelm her with advice. Gradually, she may ask you more and more... Patience... Also, do you know the child's pediatrician? I hate to advise you to go behind her back, but this is serious. Perhaps you could ask him/her for an opinion. And if he/she agrees with you, ask him/her if her/she could bring the subject up with your DD --W/O mentioning that you spoke to him/her. Many doctors are willing to do this kind of thing - their concern is the health of their patient, not who said what to whom. Another thought - I know you're not the only GP here with a grandchild (GC) with this condition. Perhaps you should start a group for GPs of kids with ADHD? Some of them may have faced the dilemma you're facing and have some good suggestions for you. And of course, you'll have a lot to offer them, as well. Food for thought...
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