How true, but very sad for mothers of boys. For those who criticize their mother in law, especially if they are the mother of boys, I try to remind them that someday they will be a mother in law. It starts at the wedding. The paternal mother is asked to wear purple and stand in the corner.

In the May Reader's Digest there was a really good article on what is your mother-in-law really thinking. I highly recommend it.

Every relationship is as unique as the people involved yet the old adage "a son is a son 'til he takes him a wife; a daughter's a daughter for the rest of your life" rings just as true today. And this isn't just the mother-in-law. It's the father-in-law as well. With my grandchildren, as they get older, I find them saying things that let me know I am indeed just as special as the "other" grandma. Several years ago when I was visiting one of my sons and his family, I heard my 5-year-old granddaughter say to her mom, "How come we always have to spend Christmas with Grandma G (her mom)? I want to spend Christmas with Grammie B!" They didn't, but somehow that didn't matter so much anymore.

I have no complaints with the relationship with my daughter in law. She is a wonderful person. She along with my son try to spend equal amount of time with both sets of grandparents. In fact, both grandmothers talk to each other regularly. I do not work outside the house, the other grandmother does. I try to make sure that the other grandmother knows what our grandchild has learned, pick up, etc. I even call the parents and my daughter in laws mother when we leave the doctor's office. The relationship between in laws is have great communication and don't let the small stuff stress you out.

I guess I am one of the few lucky ones. My DIL has always said she feels closer to me then her own mother! I get my grand babies alot more often then her mother and she is always asking for advice! Maybe it is because my son will tell her to call me and ask, but who knows, but i do feel blessed that my DIL feels this way about me and includes me in ALOT!

Sorry folks, this is simply wrong. As a new grandfather (son's dad), this is particular hard for us as our daughter-in-law is an only child. Hers is an extremely tight-knit, small family. For the three years are son was dating, they would spend 2-3 weeks per year on vacation with him, and see us maybe 2 nights per month. As I watched the video, these mothers stated it as fact, with no solution offered. This is simply taking advantage of the situation. The daughter-in-law, if she loves her husband like she says she does, will recognize that he wants to spend as much time with his family as she does - and wants his kids to spend equal time with his parents. This is 50/50, and is fair. Yes, its understandable that the daugther will always have a closer relationship to her mom (& dad), but likewise for the husband. Women always harp on the subject of equality, but spending more time with her family simply because she's the female is discrimination in its purest form - and its wrong. Of course, every situation is indeed different, but - if we assume that all things are equal - then 50/50 is the right thing to do. Frankly, both the grandmothers (and grandfathers) should keep their opinions to themselves unless asked.
Sorry daughters, you have no high ground here - you are only taking advantage of your gender - and that is wrong.