I cant' wait to get involved with my 19 month granddaughter, as I am a new first time grandmother. The parents are going to court over child custody and when it's over, I want to be in my granddaughter's life more often. My son wants me to be involved. His ex said that she wants to come along with me if I take the baby to my house. I don't mind but I prefer to take the baby alone.

Thank you for letting me know I am not alone! Our grandchild has not even arrived and I feel I never do the right thing! Yes, I too am the Mother of the Father 2 B!

It helps if the daughter-in-laws mother lives in another state. and she does not like the way she was raised

I have 14 grands and 2 Ggrands. I was working when the first bunch arrived but still managed to take a week to keep them and take them to the beach or some fun place. They were a joy.
Then came the others. They are still a joy but one daughterinlaw is from another country and is not a loving mom. They have 4 - 2boys 2 girls. She is very partial to the girls. The boys are older and I try to keep them at least 2-3 nights in the summer and the older one all week during school. She is not kind to them and thinks everyone is against her. We helped her get her citizenship papers, helped her learn to drive (This took 5 years.) Gave her a car - she thought when she came here she would be 'taken care of'. I call it a Princess complex. She wants to go to college but with 4 under age of 7 not feasible at this time. We do what we can but she still does not seem to like us. I put equal blame on my son and her for not using birth control. She had 3 IUD's, taken the pill but says her system is too delicate for that. My son will not have a vasetomy even though I offered to pay for it. Anyway, my husband and I do what we can but we are in our 70's in good health and hopefully we can continue on for many more years. She got in a shouting match with me yesterday saying that the only reason my son 'wanted babies' was to get a big income tax check each year. She feels that is her money - said he earned it off her. Very sad situation. Divorce is out of the question. I just try to take it day by day and volunteer at the school one or two days a week to keep up with their schoolwork. My son works very hard - 6 days a week, has a garden, does most of the housework and still nothing pleases her.

I just hope that things get better as the boys get older. I will stay as involved as I can as long as I can. The children know we love them and now are able to call if they need us.



Thanks.......for the place to vent my feelings.

I have 2 sons, 2 daughters-in-law and four grandchildren, and I love 'em all equally (?) I have good relationships with both of my sons' wives, and a fantastic one with my grands. I have a 'few' "don't likes" about their mothering skills, but at the end of the day, the kids are theirs, not mine, so I say very little when I'm visiting. I live in a state away from both families, but visit often. This works out great for all. I'm missed when not there and loved when I'm there. This workks for me. Mimiandfour