6 New Ways to Stay Connected to the Grandkids

Bridge long-distance relationships with these new ways to keep you and your family connected.

By Lambeth Hochwald

Whether you live a couple of hours’ drive or a plane ride away, it can be hard to feel like you’re truly ‘in’ on your family’s daily doings. But there are some unique ways to connect that not only help you feel like you’re grandparent of the year, but are also key to your overall health. “Research has shown that the more social connections you have, the happier you are and the less stressed you’ll be with your life situations,” says Sharon Gilchrest O’Neill, a family therapist in Mt. Kisco, New York. In addition, spending time with a grandchild bonds the two of you as well as the family as a whole. From crafting to charity work, these six ideas are sure to prompt some excitement for both you and your grandchild.

Idea #1: Engage in some long-distance doodling.
If you live too far away to drop in on your grandchild for some after-school coloring, consider this: All you need is an Internet connection, a Google email account (gmail), a webcam on your computer and a visit to Scoot & Doodle on Hangouts. Voilå—you can instantly start sketching face-to-face with your grandkids. “We’ve used Scoot & Doodle to create new designs or just play tic-tac-toe,” says Alida K. Newlin, a grandmother of three who lives in San Francisco. “We all remember the fun things we did with our grandparents and this is one new way to create those kinds of memories using the Internet.”

Idea #2: Share something you care about.
Marie Phillips has never forgotten the helpful money tips her parents once shared with her. So, when her grandchildren were old enough to appreciate it (they’re now four and seven), this Kansas City, Missouri, grandmother coined the concept of ‘Grandma Money Camp’ to teach them all the things they need to know to be fiscally prudent. Beginning last summer, Phillips, who lives a few hundred miles from her grandkids, invited her grandchildren for a week of fun and money talk. Included in the line-up: Listening to money-themed songs, reading books about saving money and playing store. The trio even planned and ran a one-day car wash before the week ended. Phillips’ tip: Pick something you’d like to ‘teach’ your grandkids—it’ll be more fun that way. “This summer we’re going to our condo at a nearby lake and we’ll do camp again,” she says. “We’re going to explore some local businesses and even get a tour of one of them. We might even set up a lemonade stand!”

Idea #3: Read the same books.
Young adult literature might not be your number-one choice, but by reading books your older grandkids’ are interested in, you’ll find a unique way to feel attached to them. Elaine Fantle Shimberg, who lives in Tampa, Florida, reads books her grandkids are reading, then discusses the book with them over the phone or via Skype. "I recently read The Hunger Games and had lively discussions with four of my grandkids about this book,” she says. “Sometimes we agree; often we don't and they defend their position very well. It makes for great conversation and kids often talk more openly to their grandparents than their parents.”

Idea #4: Build something together.
If you’re a thousand miles away from your grandchild, you may need to get inventive about time spent together. Such was the case for Irv Weisser, who lives in Seattle. “I only saw my seven-and-a-half year old granddaughter a couple of times a year and I wanted to make those visits as meaningful as possible,” says Weisser of his granddaughter who lives in Woodland Hills, California. So he started sending items that he could build with her. “I shipped an unassembled solid oak wagon to her when she was younger and then built it before her eyes when I arrived a few days later.” Recently, Weisser decided to invite his granddaughter to join him in repairing a bench his son had put outside. “Doing things together helps us our relationship immensely,” he says.

Idea #5. Capture memories in a sketchbook.
Instead of gathering memories in a journal, Judy Osborne, a grandmother of four, decided to purchase an artists' sketchbook that she’d work on with each of the boys. “I take their copy with me whenever I fly out to visit them,” she says. “I take markers and, when they were little, I took stickers as well. We draw together and we date the page.” This art-together project works best when grandkids are between the ages of three and 10. “The boys each have at least two books now.” Osborne says. And she always takes the books home with her, promising to give the boys their books when they turn 21. “They love to look back over each page!”

Idea #6: Star in your own fairy tale, or read one.
Anyone can read a fairy tale to a grandchild but having you both star in one was a must-do for Karen Gilbert, who created a MyFairyTaleBooks with her four-year-old granddaughter. “We personalized it and used both of our names as main characters,” she says. “We get a kick out of reading it together when I visit, and I know that her parents read it to her at bed time when she misses me.” Another idea: Record a favorite story for your grandchildren at A Story Before Bed. Once it’s recorded, your grandchild can listen to it as much as he or she wants.


Comments

I love all these ideas!
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A fun way for families to ENGAGE over Skype. Play tic tac toe, create stories, travel the world, all while you Skype with your grandkids.
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letsplayplease on 2013-10-17 04:13:28

Games grandparents can play long distance with grandchildren is one of the more ideal uses of the internet that can be used to connect, inspire, and "netsit" grandchildren that parents may appreciate, rather than having children on the internet looking for mischief.

Breakthrough technology is only as good as what you can do with it, and the social component looms large for any tech society not devoted solely to business.

Making money should come secondary to what the potential of any program is, and what it can do for humans.

Jr9del on 2013-10-16 06:17:20

I think there are some great ideas here and I'm going to suggest that those who frequent the GP.com group Grandparenting From Afar (in the Community section) read and think about them. But I'm a little concerned about "Grandma's Money Camp" in this respect - I think one would have to make sure to let the parents know that this was part of one's plan and what one wanted to teach the grandkids. If Grandma's a saver, for example and the parents are of the "You can't take it with you" persuasion - or vice versa - there's bound to be some conflict over this. And even if they have similar monetary values, overall, parents and GPs may differ on what it's ok to spend a little more on and what it's not. Plus, some parents may simply feel that teaching "the value of a dollar" is THEIR job and want to do it their own way, in their own time. In short, for whatever reasons, IMO, some parent will totally embrace this idea and others will resent and reject it. As a grandmother, myself, I strongly urge any GP contemplating this kind of "camp" to ask the parents first and respect their decision.

rosered135 on 2013-01-19 22:57:30

If folks want to know more about Grandma's Money Camp, they can read about it at: http://blog.familymoneyvalues.com/category/money-camp/

FamilyMoneyValues on 2012-10-05 15:58:14

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