... But Don't Emphasize Them
Dr. Davis says that there's an impulse to afford more responsibilities to a gifted child, which, naturally, is bad news for the other. "They might say, 'Well, there's two kinds of kids in the world — there's gifted and there's me.' And that's not a good thing," she says.
But there's the potential for an ancillary problem there, too: When the gifted child starts thinking he or she has to be extraordinary all the time, take more on, watch out for the other siblings. "(Gifted children) sometimes self-impose, because of the signals that parents or grandparents might give. Kids actually feel this, that they're getting all the attention, that they should help out more, that the more they shine the more it makes their siblings look bad." Again, the solution is to emphasize each child's individual gifts.